Be Real : Be YOU

You have to be real and be yourself, because who else are you going to be? Everybody else is taken.

Keep it simple and just be yourself!

Easier said than done, I know. They say the eyes are the window to the soul. If I were to look into your eyes, what would I see? no, really……… I am serious, what would I see?

I might actually see more of your truth than you see when you look in the mirror. Why? because you are probably your own worst critic. I am not hearing those inner voices about you, that you hear about yourself.

Isn’t it crazy the messages and the hardship we can bring to ourselves? Actually, what is even crazier is that we know they are there, we hear them, and we know they are not right and yet……. day after day we choose to believe them.

I remember working for health and human services (lord give every person who tries to help other people ample blessings because we are not always good at it, even if our heart is in the right place). Actually, tho, I am proud to say that I was good at connecting with my families. The families I worked with mirrored the family dynamics that I grew up in. So while, on the outside, i looked like i had no business being in these people’s trailer houses (I walked into a client’s house, had bright pink pants on and a bright orange, pink trim faux fur shirt on, cost a lot of money because I believed in the power of dressing strong for all occassions, whether I was going into a house filled with cockroaches or into Niemann Marcus to buy lipstick. My client’s words - so very honest, “You have got a lot of balls wearing that around.!” I think that is funny.

Then, on the inside, I was right at home with this lady, with two kids and a spouse who was walking out of their bedroom, scratching his big hairy beer belly, coming out to see what the ya wearin’.

How can one not belong and belong all at the same time? Isn’t that what we do when we believe in ourselves, want to better ourselves, and yet choose to hear and believe the inner critic?